This book is about children, and therefore it is about adults. When everyone lives from their own position, all adults and children can live fully. But sometimes adults unconsciously inwardly still reside in the child position. Children cannot help but react. Sometimes in behavior that we perceive as undesirable, for example brutality, but also in behavior that we label positively: ‘they are so caring, they are no trouble at all ...’ And then no one really goes well.

With this book, Bibi ...

Wave against the current by asking the right questions.

Barbara Hoogenboom, Jan Jacob Stam en Bibi Schreuder have combined their knowledge and translated

it into questions that you can ask per theme. 224 questions spread over 45 themes. Every question has the potential to help you a step further.

Some people are somehow able to get the almost impossible done. But what do you have an influence on, and what do you not have an influence on? The trick is to make that distinction. When you're better able to recognize the force fields in which you find yourself, when you learn to observe without judgment and surrender to "what is," you can make wise choices that allow you to do well.

"The fountain" metaphor helps you firmly take your rightful place (in life) and grant others theirs. In thi...

Do you keep encountering the same problems in daily life time and time again, and do you want to shake off a feeling you just can’t put your finger on? Do you often feel guilty and like to keep everyone on your side? Are you stuck in an unhealthy relationship or is contact with your parents difficult? How do you learn to deal with this, so you can experience more calm in your life?

Stubborn patterns in your life can often be traced back to your family system; the inseverable connection wit...